Here’s an interesting insight.
We create creative narratives (stories) to justify not leveling up in life. This is a form of self-sabotage.
Example, guys do this by creating a story that the girl of their dreams is unattainable because they don’t have six pack abs, millions, a nice car, etc.
Convenient lie to stay out of the dating game.
If you would like to test this, try the following.
Think about something you’d really like to have in life. Now quick, listen to the narrative that follows. I bet you lunch it’s a negative narrative to convince you why you can’t.
It happens so fast it must be a built-in function that runs on autopilot. So what is this function’s purpose? Is it to hurt us? No, not at all.
This function creates stories to protect us! Thank it but don’t buy in. Why is because there are no more dinosaurs roaming the planet, hunting us.
Here’s where things get messy.
The narrative gets triggered and it hurts because we know we are not being truthful and because we feel we are being denied. To bring some temporary relief we attack.
Women are crap! They are all gold diggers! Wow, that felt good even if it’s a lie.
Do this long enough and we turn into highly toxic people that self-implode.
What’s the workaround?
When you find yourself telling a story designed to keep you right, small, stuck, stagnant, etc., thank it for sharing and say “I don’t want to use this story to limit me in any way or to demonize others.” this approach tends to keep us positive, malleable and open to the possibilities life has to offer.
These thoughts ran through my mind during my morning coffee time. Instead of checking myself into the crazy house, I write. 😛