I meet a lot of men that are butt hurt because their father did not teach them how to be a man.

If you know my story, I was abandon by my dad and the step dads later that showed up were total losers. how to be a man

At some point past the age of 18 we need to find role models, books, etc., and take full responsibility for molding ourselves into the man we want to be.

If we don’t take responsibility for how we show up in the world, we end up stuck and frozen in a whiny, scared little boy headspace which never leads to a fulfilling life as a man. We also make lots of trouble for anyone we interact with. For dudes with families, it can be devastating.

When a man shows up in life with daddy issues like I did for years, we feel entitled. This feeling of entitlement comes from a hole left in our heart that was never filled by our fathers. It’s as if others should do the world for us because daddy didn’t. This is a super unhealthy way to show up.

Having worked with many men who are butt hurt because their dad didn’t do (fill in the blank) for them, I can tell you this, they’re never happy (fulfilled). You could go to their house and do their work for them and they’d still be unhappy. Why is because the presenting problem is not the real problem.

“But you don’t understand Craig, my dad was a crazy piece of shit!”

I agree and he was not the only one nor will he be the last.

At some point we need to grow up, blame our fathers if we need to and then take FULL responsibility for who we are and who we are going to become. If not, we end up running in circles like a dog chasing its tail and never ever reaching our full potential as men.

A good place to start would be reading the book…

The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

This is the go to book for most of the men I know that are striving to be the best they can be.

The following short video outlines the framework from the book…


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